The Things We Don’t Want to Say – Being Effective in Difficult Conversations Part 5

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This is the fifth and possibly final post in a series about how to be effective in difficult conversations – whether it’s bringing up something that’s upsetting you, asking for what you want, or discussing how somebody else’s behaviour is impacting on you. In part one I discussed the importance of identifying before the conversation what your priorities are, and in part two I wrote about the specifics of how to approach these conversations and what to say. In part three I discussed the i ...

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The Things We Don’t Want to Say – Being Effective in Difficult Conversations Part 4

Posted by James Driver, With 0 Comments, Category: communication, managing feelings, relationships, self-help, Tags: , , , , ,
This is the fourth in a series of posts about how to be effective in difficult conversations – whether it’s bringing up something that’s upsetting you, asking for what you want, or discussing how somebody else’s behaviour is impacting on you. In part one I discussed the importance of identifying before the conversation what your priorities are, and in part two I wrote about the specifics of how to approach these conversations and what to say. In part three I discussed the importance of ...

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How to Take Effective Risks

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I was speaking recently with a colleague about the psychotherapist Irvin Yalom, and the idea that clients benefit from taking a risk in every psychotherapy session.  I believe there’s a lot of value to this idea, and that it goes beyond the therapy session itself – I believe it is just as, if not more important for clients (and therapists!) to take risks outside of sessions and in our personal lives.  After all, without risk there is no change.  When we take a risk, we learn what our capa ...

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Mourning and Melancholia (but mostly just mourning)

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I was recently asked if I wanted to contribute to a feature in a major newspaper on the topic of bereavement. At first I thought the paper was looking for different perspectives on mourning and I would have been interested to share my thoughts about it - both what I’ve learned from my personal experience and from my work as a therapist. It turned out that what they were actually offering was a paid service, more along the lines of an infomercial where I could both talk about the topic and adve ...

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