The Things We Don’t Want to Say – Being Effective in Difficult Conversations Part 4

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This is the fourth in a series of posts about how to be effective in difficult conversations – whether it’s bringing up something that’s upsetting you, asking for what you want, or discussing how somebody else’s behaviour is impacting on you. In part one I discussed the importance of identifying before the conversation what your priorities are, and in part two I wrote about the specifics of how to approach these conversations and what to say. In part three I discussed the importance of ...

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Getting the Most From Therapy – Openness and Holding Back

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Sometimes we can be our own worst enemy in therapy. We come to the experience wanting help with a problem, wanting to be open, wanting to be able to trust the therapist and hoping that they can help us – but then often hold ourselves back in ways that makes it hard for us to benefit. This is normal. I don’t think anyone comes to therapy without a fair amount of hesitation, uncertainty and protectiveness – it’s a strange and vulnerable experience, after all. As a result, at the same ...

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