Comments on: The Things We Don’t Want To Say – Being Effective In Difficult Conversations

By: Black Dog Psychotherapy » The Things We Don’t Want to Say – Being Effective in Difficult Conversations Part 5

Fri, 02 Sep 2016 00:53:01 +0000

[…] asking for what you want, or discussing how somebody else’s behaviour is impacting on you. In part one I discussed the importance of identifying before the conversation what your priorities are, and in […]

By: james

james — Wed, 02 Sep 2015 04:42:02 +0000

Absolutely! Doing things in the heat of the moment is incredibly hard – when we’re under pressure is when we’re most likely to go back to old patterns and old ways of doing things. This is part of the reason why I think it’s so valuable if we can think about these things ahead of time, and be prepared with some knowledge of what our own vulnerabilities and trigger-points are, so that we can do our best to avoid them. It sounds like you’re doing a good job of that with your family member.

By: Beachygirl

Beachygirl — Fri, 28 Aug 2015 21:34:13 +0000

Hi James
I like this post, I recently had an upset with a family member and it would have been so easy to retaliate because it was hurtful but I knew they were under a lot of stress at the time, I didn’t though and I’m glad because it would have only made things worse. I liked your thought about maintaining the relationship and accepting the behaviour even if it hurts because it’s only part of who they are and I value the relationship. not easy to do in the heat of the moment though.

By: Black Dog Psychotherapy » The Things We Don’t Want To Say – Being Effective In Difficult Conversations Part 2

Wed, 08 Jul 2015 21:12:48 +0000

[…] in a series of posts about how to be effective in difficult conversations. You can read part one here which is about preparing yourself for the conversation, and in this post I want to talk about the […]