The Things We Don’t Want to Say – Being Effective in Difficult Conversations Part 5

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This is the fifth and possibly final post in a series about how to be effective in difficult conversations – whether it’s bringing up something that’s upsetting you, asking for what you want, or discussing how somebody else’s behaviour is impacting on you. In part one I discussed the importance of identifying before the conversation what your priorities are, and in part two I wrote about the specifics of how to approach these conversations and what to say. In part three I discussed the i ...

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Parents’ Input Needed

Posted by James Driver, With 0 Comments, Category: gaming addiction, Tags: ,
Part of the reason I haven't posted here in a while is that in addition to presenting at Generation Next events in Australia, I'm working on a book that will provide more comprehensive information for parents on managing problematic video gaming and addiction. As part of this, I want to hear from parents themselves about what has and hasn't worked for them in managing gaming. I've created a survey for parents' to share their experiences, and would be hugely grateful to anyone who is willing to ...

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The Things We Don’t Want to Say – Being Effective in Difficult Conversations Part 4

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This is the fourth in a series of posts about how to be effective in difficult conversations – whether it’s bringing up something that’s upsetting you, asking for what you want, or discussing how somebody else’s behaviour is impacting on you. In part one I discussed the importance of identifying before the conversation what your priorities are, and in part two I wrote about the specifics of how to approach these conversations and what to say. In part three I discussed the importance of ...

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Getting the Most From Therapy – Openness and Holding Back

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Sometimes we can be our own worst enemy in therapy. We come to the experience wanting help with a problem, wanting to be open, wanting to be able to trust the therapist and hoping that they can help us – but then often hold ourselves back in ways that makes it hard for us to benefit. This is normal. I don’t think anyone comes to therapy without a fair amount of hesitation, uncertainty and protectiveness – it’s a strange and vulnerable experience, after all. As a result, at the same ...

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The Things We Don’t Want To Say – Being Effective In Difficult Conversations Part 3

Posted by James Driver, With 0 Comments, Category: communication, relationships, self-help, Tags: , , , ,
This is the third in a series of posts about how to be effective in difficult conversations – whether it’s bringing up something that’s upsetting you, asking for what you want, or discussing how somebody else’s behaviour is impacting on you.  In part one, I discussed the importance of identifying before the conversation what your priorities are, and in part two I wrote about the specifics of how to approach these conversations and what to say.  In this and subsequent parts, I’m going ...

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The Things We Don’t Want To Say – Being Effective In Difficult Conversations Part 2

Posted by James Driver, With 0 Comments, Category: communication, relationships, self-help, Tags: , , ,
This is part two in a series of posts about how to be effective in difficult conversations.  You can read part one here which is about preparing yourself for the conversation, and in this post I want to talk about the format for bringing up a difficult topic or request.  Subsequent posts will look at how to manage the different responses that you might get to initiating a difficult conversation. The best way to communicate in a difficult conversation is actually quite straight-forward, and ...

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The Things We Don’t Want To Say – Being Effective In Difficult Conversations

Posted by James Driver, With 4 Comments, Category: communication, relationships, self-help, Tags: , , ,
When was the last time you had a difficult conversation with someone?  How did it go?  Whether it’s bringing up a behaviour you don’t like with a family member, asking your boss for a raise, or setting boundaries with a friend, we all tend to have ways of avoiding the most difficult conversations in our lives.  As a result, we often end up feeling like certain topics can’t be talked about – at least not easily – and because we often avoid these conversations, we don’t get better a ...

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Asking the right questions about gaming addiction

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When I completed my Master’s dissertation on gaming addiction, I noted that a majority of research on the topic focused on defining it is as a disorder, assessing the aetiology or causes of gaming addiction,  assessing how prevalent it might be, and identifying the problems that arise from gaming addiction.  Daria Kuss and Mark Griffiths, two UK-based researchers noted the same thing in 2011 when they stated that “It appears that the current scientific knowledge of Internet gaming addictio ...

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How to Take Effective Risks

Posted by kerronz, With 0 Comments, Category: managing feelings, self-help, Tags: , , ,
I was speaking recently with a colleague about the psychotherapist Irvin Yalom, and the idea that clients benefit from taking a risk in every psychotherapy session.  I believe there’s a lot of value to this idea, and that it goes beyond the therapy session itself – I believe it is just as, if not more important for clients (and therapists!) to take risks outside of sessions and in our personal lives.  After all, without risk there is no change.  When we take a risk, we learn what our capa ...

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Understanding Antidepressants

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I figured it made sense to start a detailed discussion about psychotropic medications by beginning with antidepressants since they’re probably the most common.  Apparently, as of 2014 one in nine adults and one in six women are taking antidepressants.  I want to briefly discuss the four most commonly used types of antidepressants in New Zealand (SNRIs, SSRIs, MAOIs, and TCAs – you’ll get used to the acronyms, psychiatry is full of them) but first of all start with a brief and really impo ...

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